Haters have been a topic on everyone’s convo list since the dawn of time. Just as much as we all need supporters, we need haters. I think as there is yin and yang, heaven and hell or fat and skinny… there is love and hate. It is all a balance and even though it is hard to understand why we need people to hate on us, it really is to our benefit.
Now, for some unknown reason, I have more haters than most… lol… but I am totally ok with it and this is why…
99.9% of people that hate on me, really have no idea who I am as a person. They have made the decision to hate on me because they don’t approve of my career, lifestyle, weight, cleavage, hair color or just because they caught their man lookin my way, lol… j/k… well, kinda! Maybe someone met me out at an event and felt put off that I didn’t pay them enough attention or because I had a bit too much to drink and was happily over flirtatious… oh, oh… then there is my personal favorite reason that people hate on me… because their friend does, aaahahahahahaha! Seriously folks, when is it time to grow up and leave high school behind?
Even though people find ridiculous reasons to hate on me, I truly don’t mind. I figure if you are lovingly supporting me or viciously hating on me, I am obviously on your mind. In my world, there is no such thing as bad publicity so feel free to talk about me in any fashion you like. I can’t tell you how many times I have had people make an effort to meet me because they heard a group of haters talking about me and had to find out what I was like for themselves.
Haters also help to keep me on my toes. I LOVE a challenge so if someone has something negative to say about me, especially when they don’t know me, I get crazy excited to rise to the occasion! We all need to be pushed at times to step up our game and, for me, haters are a driving force. I also at times enjoy a good story about myself, lol! How many of you have heard a story about yourself that has been completely fabricated? Well, I have and I find it uber amusing because there are so many true stories to tell that I’m flattered someone has taken the time to create one!
Like I said previously, it’s all about balance and as people we need more balance in our lives. So in closing I urge you to embrace your haters and appreciate them for their contribution to the balance in your life. Don’t take anything anyone says about you to heart. If you are a confident individual you already know the truth about yourself so nothing anyone could say or do to you should be able to impact you in a negative way. Take the good out of every situation and leave the rest!
As always, I appreciate all of your love and support… thank you for allowing me to be me!
6 responses so far ↓
John Boy // December 17, 2008 at 4:16 pm |
ppl are assholes i get it all the time cause i support my cousin over in iraq and we get hated on cause my grand parents are nazi german and on memorial day and vets day we get flooded with hate mail nazi signs on our cars.
but il love u for u not cause of what u do cause u are sinciere and calm and nice judging by ur blogs and ur demeanor
Anthony (bob pepper) // December 17, 2008 at 4:50 pm |
Good blog… BUT i may have to take you to task on one thing:
“Don’t take anything anyone says about you to heart. If you are a confident individual you already know the truth about yourself so nothing anyone could say or do to you should be able to impact you in a negative way.”
Okay, the last part about not letting it affect you in a negative way I agree with… but i do think sometimes it is good to take the negative things to heart.
None of us are flawless, but at times it can be very hard to see our own faults… and *sometimes* when another person brings those faults to the fore, that is when we can begin to recognize them ourselves and perhaps do what we can to correct them.
Tawnee // December 17, 2008 at 5:23 pm |
^5 Girl You know I love ya! We all have our faults!! Some times it’s hard juggling friends that hate on each other but thank god my friends realize it doesn’t matter to me that they may not like each other for whatever reason that I make my own decision in who I like and love and decide to have close to me! It’s Elementary My Dear Watson! lol and your right it’s ok to have haters!! Makes you a better person when you can rise above them and not return the hate.. Just think in your mind.. I so Love You! Keeps that Karma sparkling too GF!!!
Love you Tawnee
mernahuana // December 23, 2008 at 9:19 pm |
we can learn from haters. if its valid criticism. if not use their angst to give u energy to keep creating. why would someone waste energy on something they dislike when so much of what they can like is out there. positive attraction. blah. blah. blah.
fatcurvystories // December 24, 2008 at 12:41 am |
I get some hate mail as well for my stories, and I also think that’s fine. Like you said, it’s better to stand out (one way or the other) than to simply be an insignificant coward. Having things to say always means facing people who think differently, and god bless them if they take the time to write and tell you how bad you are: that’s validation for the work you’re doing.
john // December 31, 2008 at 10:02 am |
You’re so sexy honey…kisses from Rome