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Reppin BBW!

Since I have been getting back into the swing of things and have been becoming more involved in the BBW world I have noticed a lot of things that have just really, for lack of a better term, repulsed me. Now these are just things that I have observed and experienced personally. The things I will talk about in this blog will be based solely on my own personal views and opinions. This blog will offend a few, but hey… honestly is my policy! I’ll say it right off the top… I’m not trying to be a bitch or insult anyone, I’m just describing my observations and sharing my opinions. With that said… let’s do this!

First and foremost I recognize that the world looks at the BBW industry as a niche. I also understand that most companies are mainstream and therefore focus their attention on the skinny, mainstream models. Because of this the quality of mainstream work is much better and sets the bar to very high standards. There are a few companies in the BBW realm who have met those mainstream standards, Sensational Video and Score just to name a couple, and they noticeably continuously strive for better. The majority of the other companies that shoot BBW content definitely do not even attempt to compete with mainstream standards as it’s just simply not in the budget.

With knowing that BBW is already looked at in such a way that it’s hardly recognized as a legitimate part of the industry makes me that much more adamant that the people who represent for the industry should do so in a fashion that holds up to the mainstream standards. Let me give a few examples, for instance… since a picture is worth a thousand words, below is an example of something people might remember for mainstream and then from BBW. Now which one would leave a lasting impression for you? The skinny girl who dressed like a Canary or the big broad who DIDN’T WEAR SHOES on the red carpet? I think the answer is clear.

Example #2
I recently attended an event where vendors where promoting and selling various things as I came across a booth that was promoting for an event concerning BBW models and what not. Now when I think of BBW models I think of pretty girls looking there absolute best. I think of outfits, hair, makeup and fun accessories… so imagine my dismay when I walked up to the booth and saw the organizer running it wearing a night-gown (I knew it instantly as I have the same one) with messy hair and no makeup. Really??? Is that the quality of model you want to show the world is going to be attending your event? My mother has more style and I don’t think she’s changed her hair or wore a stitch of makeup in over 20 years! Come on now…

Example #3
Social media: Now social media is a mess in all aspects, period. I have read Facebook and twitter feeds from all types of entertainers that makes you want to throw out your computer, leave western civilization and become a Buddhist monk. I have also noticed that the successful mainstream girls keep it light and fun with minimum drama… there’s always gotta be some drama, let’s be real. For the most part though, they stick to keeping their followers happy with sexy pics and interesting blurbs. Now on the other hand when I read my fellow BBW colleagues tweets I usually just shake my head in disbelief or quit reading as it too painful to go on. There’s so much animosity and contempt between girls that timelines are full of shit talking, cryptic messages and personal info that really needs to stay personal. I cannot lie and say I am not guilty of the occasional shit talking or cryptic message, but I can guarantee they are few and far between and will never fill someones feed with continuously spewed bullshit. It’s truly shocking that some girls even have fans who follow them when at any point in time they can be subjected to, or even the subject of, a serious rant or tongue lashing. I think the most disturbing though is the ratchet ghettoness of someone talking about sucking dick and making her pussy cum immediately followed by many pics of her several children. Seriously? I am all about being proud of your family, but seriously? Not the time nor place.

Example #4
This example again hits on the animosity and contempt that runs between women in our industry. Below is the exact PRIVATE text that I had personally sent someone after having enough with her shenanigans…

“Hey xxxxxxxx, this is Desiree. I tried to call you but there was no answer. I am going to ask you one time nicely to please keep my name out of your mouth. I have now had 3 people come tell me that you have mentioned my name and I don’t appreciate it. I don’t know you very well but you have quite a reputation and from what I can tell, it precedes you. I am not the kind of person that will talk behind your back, you will always know what I have to say first hand. I do not in any way shape or form be associated with you. To be associated with you is to be associated with bad business and drama. xxxxx also made it clear that he didn’t want to be associated with you but yet you choose to try to use his event to promote your own, grimy. As of this moment we have no beef but if you keep on, we will. Good luck to you.”

The following day several comments pop up on her public timeline and are forwarded to me accusing me of “Texts, threatening phone calls, posting nasty comments and call outs…”! As far as I know I sent one text but there were no threats, it wasn’t public and I was very nice considering the situation. The woman, who is old enough to be my mother mind you, goes on to say “All this shit talk, all this character reference all this kindergarten sand box shit…your middle age. You won’t be in porn for ever, worry bout what happens to u after the movies over…”… that’s some good advice, but I guess it’s more of a do as I say not as I do situation since the statements that followed were full of adult rational… “Shit starters, Stank Bitches and Broke ass bumb giggas, I eat you for breakfast.”

Unfortunately I’m not immune to bits of drama but I refused to get into any kind of back and forth with this person, or any person for that matter, as I just don’t think it’s worth the time and energy. Truthfully the only reason I bring it up now is because it is an example of the common types of drama that can totally be avoided on a public level if you just handle things privately.

I am not perfect and I need to do a much better job at handling certain situations, but I still believe that at some point the BBW world will rise to the occasion and show all the people who looked down on us that we deserve to be recognized and we can be just as beautiful and sought after as any one of those mainstream girls. This is my plea to every big girl in the World… hold your head up high, be proud of who you are, show everyone around you that you value yourself and take pride in your appearance because you know you’re worth it, but most of all LoVe yourself and everyone else will follow.

My final example is pure Plus Sized beauty personified… beauty runs deep.

As always, thank you for the continued love and support! (✿◠‿◠)

BIG BBW Industry Beef!

As everyone pretty much knows I have pretty much been out of the game for a little over a year or so.. I have been taking care of me and trying to get ME straight. As I am reentering the industry I am finding that a lot has changed in the time I have been gone. Just like in any industry, people leave and new people come in. I have seen a lot of new girls come in and make a positive impression, but unfortunately there are those who have arrived on the scene with a wealth of controversy. Now for some people, like Kat Stacks, controversy is their life… I guess if you want to be known and remembered as the sub-human ghetto money-grubbing whore that’s fine… but for the rest of us we strive to make a more positive impact.

Now if you have followed me for any period of time you already know that I am not afraid to take a stand for what’s right. I have went up against Lisa Marie Garbo for being a scandalous, two-faced fraud as well as a well know porn convention, which made national news, for discriminating against overweight entertainers. The way I look at it is that if there is something that is blatantly hurting someone, a stand needs to be taken because enough is enough. Today one of my best friends, Farrah Foxx, took a stand against another BBW in the industry and put it out there that the BS and trash talk against her would not be tolerated. This is what Farrah had to say:

The sad part about this is that Farrah felt like she had to defend herself. In the small niche market of the adult industry that we are in, we should really be banning together to network and thrive, not battling it out over Facebook, twitter and YouTube! Farrah should have never been put in a defensive position, period… there is no reason for it. This industry is big enough for all of us to get a piece of the pie… as long as you are good at what you do the work will come. It’s ok to be a go getter and to go after success because Lord knows it won’t come to you, but there is a way to handle your business with class and tact. Remember the saying “You get more bees with honey”!

My hope in this industry is to show people that BBW’s are just as sexy as all those skinny bitches and we have just as much if not more class than them. Big girls need to stand up and walk with your head held high exuding confidence, not conceitedness. Keep your personal life personal and don’t bring your business into the public… as models we need to be a fantasy, not a vile spewing catty broads. Fans don’t want to see their favorite sex symbols talking shit about each other, they want to see us ramming each other with toys and whatnot! Cat fights are generally a turn off and will often leave a bad taste in the fans mouth. I wish EVERYONE success because I know the more successful that my predecessors are, it paves the way for my own future success.

At the end of the day we are all in the same boat… we can together help it stay afloat or sit back and drown. People will have personal beefs, but keep it personal, no need to make it public and don’t put others down to make yourself look like your on a taller stage because it’ll backfire and make you look like the ultimate schmuck. I hope that one day the BBW community will come together and unite as a movement… no one can do it alone, it takes a team effort, even Martin Luther King Jr. had a support system. PLUS… helping someone and lifting them up is a lot more rewarding than tearing them down.