Model Advice 101 – Thrive Don’t Follow

So this post is all about being successfully independent in the adult industry. I am going to give you 5 key examples of some of the biggest mistakes models make today.

Blindly following – First off, know who you are allowing to lead you. If you want to be successful then you need to emulate success. A lot of models in the industry today are just following behind the “hype” man. DO YOUR RESEARCH folks. Google is your best friend. If you think their is someone who can guide you in your career then you should know what they’ve done in theirs. They promise paid work… have they ever been paid for their work? They promise you fame and fortune… do they have an image worth mention or a pot to piss in? Have they been truly successful in their careers or is it just a bunch of fluff that THEY have put into the cyberverse? I can start my own Wiki page or easily acquire 100k+ followers on twitter… that is what is commonly referred to as hype.

Look folks, there are a lot of people out there that need you more than you need them. They don’t have a name that can stand alone so they need new faces and recognizable names to work with them to make them seem more relevant. THESE PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE YOUR BEST INTERESTS IN MIND! Moving along.

Social Media Drama – NO ONE likes someone who constantly has drama. Fans don’t want to see you beefing, they want to see you being sexy or to know who’s titties you want to be motorboating. Keep it light and fun!

Potential employers or other models that you would work with for content don’t want to deal with drama so guess who they are gonna avoid shooting with in the future… yup!

Remember!!! Those who talk the most about being over the drama generally have the MOST drama. Those who are regularly “taking out the trash”, “removing toxic elements” or “cleaning house” probably have a larger than average amount of drama. If people are always on the “Why me, I’m a good person with a big heart” bandwagon, they too are probably a common drama denominator!

Don’t get pulled in by a drama filled succubus, it never turns out well. Trust me, we’ve all been there and learned the hard way.

Ego – BE HUMBLE! I get that a lot of you get into this industry for the attention. I understand that it’s nice to have people fawning all over you and paying you just to get a glimpse of you on cam or at and event… don’t let that go to your head people. I have seen women and men get a little to big for their britches and think that they are too good to put in any real work, guess where those people are now… yeah, I don’t know either.

In any industry, in any line of business you will find that the same people you shit on on your way to the top will be the same people that don’t bother lending a hand when you are in a free fall to the bottom. Karma is always watching.

Laziness – 5 words: You Have To Be Invested! You have to want success, you have to feel success, you have to have the drive to go out and no matter what obstacles you face, BE SUCCESSFUL. No one is going to just hand you success, and if they did it would come with a hefty price tag. Nothing in this life is free. If you want it, you have to earn it. NO excuses. No one will ever work harder for you than you will, however, if you invest in yourself it will make others want to invest in you.

For a few years I wasn’t sure of what I wanted, what direction I wanted to go, who I wanted to be, so I got lazy. I didn’t live up to my own potential and I didn’t make the money that I knew I could make, the money that I had made for so many years before. For that, I only had myself to blame.

Wish it. Dream it. Do it.

Ignorance – Much like in the first section where I mentioned doing your research, I am going to press that issue again here. So MANY models go out and shoot all the content they can and know NOTHING about contracts, model releases, 2257 laws, copyright, etc. THIS IS A BUSINESS, treat it as such. If you were going to start a bakery you would have to lease a property, file for a business license, file articles with the state for tax purposes, etc. This is YOUR business, learn how to run it. When someone shoots your content, the photographer/videographer owns that content unless otherwise agreed upon, have a contract. If you shoot content trade, get model release and 2257 documentation RIGHT THEN… don’t wait until you have a falling out with a model or he/she goes MIA and then that content is worthless. Learn copyright and branding laws so you don’t get sued… You CANNOT shoot porn with any Branded Companies product. If you shoot with lube, remove or hide the label. If you are shooting with beverages, turn the can/bottle/etc. so that the logo cannot be seen. I could go on for days, but I shan’t.

That concludes today’s Model Advice 101, I hope that some of you find it useful!

 

 

 

Shooting for BBW Buffet!

Today I did my first shoot with Reenaye Starr for BBWBuffet.com! It was the first time I have done a shoot for a feeder site, but I had a good time! I REALLY enjoyed working with Reenaye and her business partner. I also had a lot of fun doing my sets with Platinum Puzzy… it was at some points VERY difficult to keep a straight face, lol!

Here’s a pic that was taken by Platinum of Reenaye shooting me… good times!

I’m not sure when the first set will be posted on the site, but I will definitely keep y’all up to date.

I am heading off in the morning to shoot for RedHotPhatGirlz.com! It’s been quite awhile since I last shot for them, but I’m sure it’ll be fun… I’ll post a pic from the shoot on my twitter so make sure you check in… twitter.com/desireedevine!

As always… thank you all SO MUCH for all of your LoVe and support! TTYS

East Coast Tour 2012

If you’re wondering if the rumors are true about Platinum Puzzy and I doing an East Coast Tour are true or not, let me help clarify… YES, it’s true! Plat and I have teamed up once again and are making our way up the East Coast. We are starting off our tour here in Jacksonville, Fl and eventually ending back in Las Vegas, with MANY stops along the way! I am going to list the first half of the dates below for the month of August and later I will post an update with September dates.

August 2012 Dates

1-3 Jacksonville, FL
3-5 Tampa, FL
5-8 Ft. Lauderdale/Miami
8-10 Orlando, FL
10-14 Atlanta, GA
14-17 Raleigh/Durham, NC
17-21 Norfolk, VA
21-31 DC/NY

For scheduling, calendar, Q&A and donation information please refer to www.DesireeOnDemand.com!

For booking please email me at desireedevine@gmail.com.
Two girl sessions and discounts for extended time is available.

The map below shows all the cities we will stop in, cross-country dates are to be determined and will be posted within the next week.

We look forward to seeing you during our travels!

Reppin BBW!

Since I have been getting back into the swing of things and have been becoming more involved in the BBW world I have noticed a lot of things that have just really, for lack of a better term, repulsed me. Now these are just things that I have observed and experienced personally. The things I will talk about in this blog will be based solely on my own personal views and opinions. This blog will offend a few, but hey… honestly is my policy! I’ll say it right off the top… I’m not trying to be a bitch or insult anyone, I’m just describing my observations and sharing my opinions. With that said… let’s do this!

First and foremost I recognize that the world looks at the BBW industry as a niche. I also understand that most companies are mainstream and therefore focus their attention on the skinny, mainstream models. Because of this the quality of mainstream work is much better and sets the bar to very high standards. There are a few companies in the BBW realm who have met those mainstream standards, Sensational Video and Score just to name a couple, and they noticeably continuously strive for better. The majority of the other companies that shoot BBW content definitely do not even attempt to compete with mainstream standards as it’s just simply not in the budget.

With knowing that BBW is already looked at in such a way that it’s hardly recognized as a legitimate part of the industry makes me that much more adamant that the people who represent for the industry should do so in a fashion that holds up to the mainstream standards. Let me give a few examples, for instance… since a picture is worth a thousand words, below is an example of something people might remember for mainstream and then from BBW. Now which one would leave a lasting impression for you? The skinny girl who dressed like a Canary or the big broad who DIDN’T WEAR SHOES on the red carpet? I think the answer is clear.

Example #2
I recently attended an event where vendors where promoting and selling various things as I came across a booth that was promoting for an event concerning BBW models and what not. Now when I think of BBW models I think of pretty girls looking there absolute best. I think of outfits, hair, makeup and fun accessories… so imagine my dismay when I walked up to the booth and saw the organizer running it wearing a night-gown (I knew it instantly as I have the same one) with messy hair and no makeup. Really??? Is that the quality of model you want to show the world is going to be attending your event? My mother has more style and I don’t think she’s changed her hair or wore a stitch of makeup in over 20 years! Come on now…

Example #3
Social media: Now social media is a mess in all aspects, period. I have read Facebook and twitter feeds from all types of entertainers that makes you want to throw out your computer, leave western civilization and become a Buddhist monk. I have also noticed that the successful mainstream girls keep it light and fun with minimum drama… there’s always gotta be some drama, let’s be real. For the most part though, they stick to keeping their followers happy with sexy pics and interesting blurbs. Now on the other hand when I read my fellow BBW colleagues tweets I usually just shake my head in disbelief or quit reading as it too painful to go on. There’s so much animosity and contempt between girls that timelines are full of shit talking, cryptic messages and personal info that really needs to stay personal. I cannot lie and say I am not guilty of the occasional shit talking or cryptic message, but I can guarantee they are few and far between and will never fill someones feed with continuously spewed bullshit. It’s truly shocking that some girls even have fans who follow them when at any point in time they can be subjected to, or even the subject of, a serious rant or tongue lashing. I think the most disturbing though is the ratchet ghettoness of someone talking about sucking dick and making her pussy cum immediately followed by many pics of her several children. Seriously? I am all about being proud of your family, but seriously? Not the time nor place.

Example #4
This example again hits on the animosity and contempt that runs between women in our industry. Below is the exact PRIVATE text that I had personally sent someone after having enough with her shenanigans…

“Hey xxxxxxxx, this is Desiree. I tried to call you but there was no answer. I am going to ask you one time nicely to please keep my name out of your mouth. I have now had 3 people come tell me that you have mentioned my name and I don’t appreciate it. I don’t know you very well but you have quite a reputation and from what I can tell, it precedes you. I am not the kind of person that will talk behind your back, you will always know what I have to say first hand. I do not in any way shape or form be associated with you. To be associated with you is to be associated with bad business and drama. xxxxx also made it clear that he didn’t want to be associated with you but yet you choose to try to use his event to promote your own, grimy. As of this moment we have no beef but if you keep on, we will. Good luck to you.”

The following day several comments pop up on her public timeline and are forwarded to me accusing me of “Texts, threatening phone calls, posting nasty comments and call outs…”! As far as I know I sent one text but there were no threats, it wasn’t public and I was very nice considering the situation. The woman, who is old enough to be my mother mind you, goes on to say “All this shit talk, all this character reference all this kindergarten sand box shit…your middle age. You won’t be in porn for ever, worry bout what happens to u after the movies over…”… that’s some good advice, but I guess it’s more of a do as I say not as I do situation since the statements that followed were full of adult rational… “Shit starters, Stank Bitches and Broke ass bumb giggas, I eat you for breakfast.”

Unfortunately I’m not immune to bits of drama but I refused to get into any kind of back and forth with this person, or any person for that matter, as I just don’t think it’s worth the time and energy. Truthfully the only reason I bring it up now is because it is an example of the common types of drama that can totally be avoided on a public level if you just handle things privately.

I am not perfect and I need to do a much better job at handling certain situations, but I still believe that at some point the BBW world will rise to the occasion and show all the people who looked down on us that we deserve to be recognized and we can be just as beautiful and sought after as any one of those mainstream girls. This is my plea to every big girl in the World… hold your head up high, be proud of who you are, show everyone around you that you value yourself and take pride in your appearance because you know you’re worth it, but most of all LoVe yourself and everyone else will follow.

My final example is pure Plus Sized beauty personified… beauty runs deep.

As always, thank you for the continued love and support! (✿◠‿◠)

Sin City Radio!

So last Sunday night I got the awesome privilege of going on the radio here in Las Vegas with the super fabulous women of The Curvaceous Bounty of Sin City! I can’t possibly begin to tell you how much fun I had… I seriously laughed so hard at points I almost piddled my pants… the broads a HE-FUCKING-LARIOUS I tell you! I am going to post the link so you too can piddle in your pants and get to know me a little bit better!

Click here to watch my interview on Ustream!

Tour Time!

So it looks like I am jumping back out into the traveling world… I will spend one more night in  LAS VEGAS until the morning of Thursday September 1st! I will then move on to Los Angeles… staying in Downey until the morning of the 5th, maybe even until the 7th! On the 7th I will move right along to San Francisco/East Bay… I will stay in Emeryville until the morning of the 10th and then over to San Leandro to stay through the 12th. On the morning of the 13th I will head to Seattle where I will stay in SeaTac through the 17th. Finally I will head to NYC on the 18th through the 24th putting me back in Phoenix on September 25th!

I am taking advanced bookings and guaranteed bookings for all cities now so please contact me as soon as possible as my time is limited. I can be contacted via email at desiree@desireeondemand.com. If you have questions or would just like some general info about me you can visit http://desireeondemand.com! There is also a calendar on my site, please check it often to see if there are any updates.

I have posted rates though they vary by city so please contact me to find out my rate based on your city. If you have any questions about my rates please feel free to ask but do not try to low ball me as that will be the last of our communication. I am very easy-going but don’t push it! =o)

Well here goes, I’m off! I look forward to seeing you soon!

2010… Reflections…

Well, it’s officially New Year’s Eve… the very last day of 2010! This is my diary of reflection… it may take a bit so you may want to grab a beverage and get comfy!

This year has been one of the longest yet shortest years of my life. Though time felt as if it was racing by, soooo much has happened. I would LoVe to tell you that  it was all glory and roses but, as you know, I’m no chimney so blowing smoke is not my specialty. However, this year DEFINITELY has had its high points, and those very points have made all of the rest worth it. I learned a long time ago that you have to go through what you need to to get to where you want to be. The struggles in life make us appreciate the blessings… plus there is a natural balance to life, the ebb and flow of the universe guarantees that we will have our ups and downs.

The year started off strong out of the gate! I spent the first half touring the East Coast… finding a new LoVe for NYC and NJ… then the other half touring the upper and mid sections of the U.S. Along my path I met some AMAZING people, dropped some feckless and hindering baggage,  partied like a rock star, found myself, laughed, cried, hurt, healed and discovered my life’s true passion. I have always known what my passion was for, I just could never figure out how to go about implementing it.

I got into the adult industry a few years ago, not because I thought having sex on camera was my life’s calling, but because I wanted to help show the world that it is ok to be proud of who you are and that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. I wanted to open people’s eyes to see the error in societies flawed sense of what makes a woman’s body beautiful. It has always been my belief that beauty is not just skin deep, but it radiates from the most inner core of the soul. I discovered long ago that my way of doing things is generally opposite of everyone else’s way of doing them… which is ok… it just means more work on my part, lol!

A lot of people think that because I am an adult entertainer that I am less than human. That I somehow was forced into making this awful decision… and though I HATE to admit that I fall into most of the stereotypical scenarios of a standard porn chick… I do. I am severely flawed and dysfunctional. I have never denied my issues, in fact… quite the opposite. I embrace my issues as a part of who I am. My flaws make me human and I am perfectly ok with that. Having as many issues as I do removes any pressure to try to be perfect. I am flawed, therefore I am expected to fuck up! Though I don’t go around messing things up because I am expected to, I also don’t beat myself up when I do. I take each situation as a learning experience and try to implement the lessons I learn in other aspects of my life. My issues are also what allows me to do what I do without any sense of emotional attachment.

As most everyone knows, I have been single for a very long time and though I have found LoVe, I am always hesitant to let someone into my dark world. This year, because of my move to AZ, I ended up spending Christmas day alone on my sofa watching Netflix. Of course I corresponded via text, internet and phone, it was a pretty long day of solitude. Because, as two friends pointed out, I am an emotional cutter, I decided that on Christmas day I was going to face a few of my past demons, I watched “Precious”.  I have been avoiding this movie for a VERY long time because I knew that when I watched it it would bring up some of my own extremely painful and difficult memories. I have tried very hard as an adult to put my past behind me, but one thing I have learned throughout the years is that by stuffing all of the ugly history away, we give it power. When things are all out in the open and laying there in front of you… they just don’t seem so powerful anymore. The more we face our fears, the less afraid we become.

On Christmas day I faced my childhood head on… and it was liberating. Though I cried like a toddler and felt like my chest was going to cave in, I realized that things can always be worse. I dried my face, took a deep breath and became surprisingly thankful for the events of my childhood. The things I went through have made me the person I am today and today I can say I LoVe me. I am content with who I am and can proudly say that I have lived. I have lived MY life on MY terms and wouldn’t have it any other way. There are a lot of people who stand back and feel ok with judging me for my choices… but they were MY choices to make. I am not ashamed of anything that I have done, like I said before… it will all help mold me into the person I am meant to become.

The one on ONLY thing I have ever been 100% certain of in my entire life was that I wanted to do something or be someone who could/would help other people learn how to be ok with who they are. I used to want to be a youth counselor but I don’t ever think I could come to terms with having to interact with an abuser. I know that abuse is most of the time a cycle, and that an abuser is generally themselves a victim of abuse… it just never registered with me how someone who has gone through that kind of pain could inflict it on others. It wasn’t until I was older and “different” that I discovered the desire to help people with their body image… it all starts with working from the inside out. If you are beautiful inside it will show outside.

In the last few months I have been EXTREMELY blessed. I have moved to a place I am growing to LoVe, finally received some MUCH needed medical insurance and have some place that I can finally call home… it’s not much, but it’s ALL mine! I have greater friends than I could have ever asked for, LoVe that keeps me grounded and stable, health, though not perfect by any means, I am alive and able to take care of myself… that’s all anyone can rally ask for. I have found work that I am SOOOO passionate about and that I LoVe whole heartedly. I feel that in this moment my life is full and complete… there is very little more that I could ask for.

In the coming year I will be making a lot of personal life changes and making some very difficult transitions. I am very excited about my new direction… it has been such a long time since I was filled with so much passion. I guess it comes when you truly believe in what you’re doing. Though changes are not always easy, my hope is that people will continue to support me through them and enjoy the journey with me. I almost feel like I am, yet again, getting a second chance at life and I refuse to not grab it by the horns and hold on as long a humanly possible.

For all of those who were a part of my life in 2010, thank you… thank you for being a part of my journey… god or bad. Without you I would not be where I am today and have the wisdom of the past to guide me in my future. I look forward to the New Year with new beginning and new goals. I give thanks to the past years for all of the lessons and memories that I will take with me into each new day. My this New Year bring peace and prosperity to the world and may we learn how to let go of all of the negative, as it will only keep us from our own happiness.

From me to you… have a safe and blessed New Year!

XoXoXo, DD

Industry Truths!

This blog is going to be kind of a hodgepodge of topics… the first being a very real look into the adult entertainment industry. When it comes to any type of work we all do it for the same reason… to make money. We have to make a living at what we do or we need to be realistic about our earning potential, or lack there of. Ladies… if you are trying to get into the adult industry as a career then you have to be very devoted. There are literally thousands of girls that come and go, they get there few little scenes and are to never be heard from again. It takes a lot of work to have any type of staying power. There are also a lot of girls who come in with big dreams, which is great but not always realistic, who try for many years to make it but just barely scrape by. Let’s face it… unless your very mainstream you’re not gonna get rich in porn. In the long run these ladies end up spending more money than they make.

Look… to me it seems so simple… if you can’t afford rent, a car, to feed your kids and/or your house is in foreclosure… you should think of making a new career choice. When you owe several people more money than you will make in the next decade… it’s time to make a change. When it comes to my own career, I’m very realistic… I know my actual earning potential and know that if I don’t make my numbers it’s because I was being lazy. Too often I see girls will that dedicate SO much time attempting to make a name for themselves that they actually end up desperate and doing things that only make it harder for themselves. If you LoVe the attention, awesome, but be realistic… maybe it should just be a hobby for you. Don’t allow yourself to be consumed by the attention… it will be your ultimate demise. The thing that you learn throughout time is that most people will waste your time. Guys will want to chat with you for hours and then go watch your movies on the free porn sites… it sucks but it’s the truth.

My final thought on this topic is that girls also need to be realistic about their age. We all have a shelf life. If you make this your career you should have a back up plan. Once you hit your mid 30’s you’re considered a MILF, which there are some super hot MILF’s, but then the next step is granny porn! I don’t know about most ladies, but I don’t plan on attempting granny porn, lol! There is also the cold hard fact that very few women enter the industry in their older years and are able to be successful, there are some, but not many. If you have been trying to make it in this business for SEVERAL years, you are getting older and you haven’t been successful… chances are you won’t. I’m not trying to be harsh, just honest. There is nothing worse than watching someone run in circles until they have run themselves and their family straight into destitution.

Secondly… the topic of sociopaths has arisen. It seems like this industry is kind of a breeding ground for them. I don’t know if it’s because a lot of us in the industry are already kind of stereotypically dysfunctional or if it’s because to do what we do you have to have a certain degree of abnormal pleasure-seeking tendencies. Either way it makes having relationships in this industry difficult to say the least. I have always know that I am indubitably flawed and because of that I always thought that knowing I am a bit crazy makes me sane. See you can always tell if someone is crazy cause they don’t know they’re crazy! A sociopath will always be a sociopath cause they lack remorse. It’s defined as a personality disorder characterized by an abnormal lack of empathy combined with abnormally immoral conduct despite an ability to appear normal.

It’s hard enough connecting with people and letting them in without having to worry if someone is who they appear to be or if it is all a big facade. I know I have been shamboozled and it’s not an easy thing to recover from. I also have good friends who have been taken for a destructive ride by a sociopath… it’s something that can change a person forever. Trust doesn’t come easily to me and now with always being skeptical of people and their ability to be honest it’s near impossible… but that doesn’t mean I won’t be open because there are good people out there, they are just few and far between. The thing that strikes me most odd about a sociopath is their ability to distort situations to make themselves look like the victim when there is such a clear path of destruction. Their audacity is astounding. When most people are found to be fraudulent they tend to scurry away and withdraw in shame, this is not the case with a sociopath, they see no fault in their actions and continue on their path of destruction.

There are many things that I LoVe about this industry… I don’t want to give the wrong impression. Doing what I do has allowed me to meet amazing, non sociopathic, people, travel, experience new worlds and most importantly share the message of size acceptance to the world. I want ALL women to know they are beautiful (period). No magazine or fashion guru will ever be able to tell me that any one of those stick figure models have the sense of self-appreciation that I feel. I have been a thin model and I know the lack of self-esteem these girls experience cause no matter how beautiful you are you are never beautiful enough… it’s a very sad circle of constant criticism.

That’s all from me tonight… so I leave you with my favorite 3 words…

LiVe. Laugh. LoVe.

Headed back to the Left Coast!

As most of you know I have been on the East Coast for a minute. I have traveled from Miami to upstate NY and have made many, many stops in between. I have come to LoVe the NE, Jersey & NYC especially… but it’s time for me to find my way back home. California is where my heart is, as well as my best friends, and I have really missed it so.

With all that said… it’s road trip time. Since I drove across the country I’m gonna have to drive back but this time I have MANY stops along the way. Here is a quick glance at my tentative cities list:

Atlanta
Nashville
Indianapolis
Chicago
St. Louis
Oklahoma City
Dallas/Ft. Worth
Houston
San Antonio
Tucson
Phoenix
Vegas
& FINALLY Los Angeles

It is gonna be a long trip with lots of adventure and I can’t wait! Through some of my travels I will even have company like Thunder Katt, Farrah Foxx and others. Since I am driving it means I may have changes to my schedule so I am not announcing dates until I am sure, probably the end of next week! I will also be hitting clubs and different events along the way… if you wanna stay up to date on where I’ll be and when you can click here to sign up for my mailing list!

For this trip I am booking private sessions in advance… more details, including rates, services and travel calendar, can be found on DesireeOnDemand.com! When booking in advance PLEASE make sure of your dates and times, if you are not certain of when you can make it, call me when you are… and if your plans change, be courteous and call me to let me know you have to cancel or reschedule.

I look forward to visiting a town near you!

Finally… I’m a webcam girl!

Yes… you read it correctly… I am FINALLY doing live webcam shows!  I know, I know… it’s about time right! Y’all have been asking FOREVER, I’m just slow… and no I don’t wear a helmet, lol… just kidding!

Currently I am doing shows via Yahoo and Skype – $25 for 10 mins or $50 for 30 mins to be paid via Paypal or Credit Card, as well as chatting it up on NiteFlirt (several different rates depending on your desires)… http://www.niteflirt.com/desireedevine CUM check me out! You can have me solo or for a little extra $ you can see me and my girl Platinum Puzzy get down and dirty together… mmmmhmmm!

I also have a new links page where you can find all of my links in 1 place http://desireedevine.me

I also sometimes appear on http://www.allbbwcams and am setting up Rude and IMLive accounts, so watch for me fellas!

And of course… cum watch all of my naughty vids and stare at my naughty body at http://desireedevine.com

As always, thank you for the support… I can’t wait to see you!